No matter how self-fulfilled you might feel, anyone could always use a couple of good words – which is why we compiled this list of ten best self help tips. The best of people are those who want to keep working at constantly bettering themselves. If you’re one of them, here’s your chance. Take these pieces of advice, take them with a pinch of salt, enjoy them and apply them. You’ll start seeing the results in no time.
1. Enjoy Every Moment
This type of outlook on life, also known as the Carpe Diem! (Latin for ‘Seize the Day!’) philosophy, is one of the best known and most popular self help tips in the history of human kind. It’s literally been around since ancient times and advises one to live each and every single moment of their lives as if it were their last. You never know when those closest to you might be gone. You never know if you’ll see another sunrise. So take your time to truly appreciate and enjoy these things.
2. Find a Purpose
Walking aimlessly through life, much like a chicken’s body continues to move, even after the bird’s head had been severed, is never likely to make a better person out of you. If you want to live the kind of life you deserve, then you need to know what you want to do with it. Where are you headed? What do you see yourself doing when you’re old and grey? What values matter the most to you? These are all questions that will help you find a fulfilling purpose in life.
3. Follow a Goal
This is one of the self help tips on the list that tells you being ambitious is likely to improve the quality of your life. Once you’ve found that purpose, turn it into a goal. Say to yourself, ‘I will have my own home by the time I’m 30.’ Or, ‘I want my business to make a 300K profit in two years’ time.’ Whatever makes you tick, whatever your goals, just make sure you don’t lose them along the way, in the big web of pleasures and obstacles that life throws at us all.
4. Be More Optimistic about the Future
Sure, times are tough. Maybe you’re going through a time of personal and emotional setbacks. Maybe you can’t land your dream job. Maybe you’ve even lost your job. Whatever might be causing your anxieties and turmoil, remember that you can only attract positive people and positive events if you try to keep a balanced, optimistic outlook on what tomorrow might bring. In this respect, stop worrying. It can always get worse, but you can’t always control everything.
5. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
“Do one thing every day that scares you,” said Baz Luhrmann in Everybody’s Free (to Wear Sunscreen). It doesn’t have to be bungee jumping and it doesn’t have to be every day either. Maybe you hate talking to strangers on the phone. Maybe it makes you anxious to pass by stray dogs in the street. All the little things that cause our many anxieties can be made to appear friendlier, if we only get used to them. Your comfort zone will keep you happy, but it won’t help you grow beyond your current standing. So be brave and step outside.
6. Make Exercise a Daily Habit
You’ve heard this one a million times and you’ve got a million excuses to match all those times. Joining a gym is expensive and out of the way for you. You don’t have room for a treadmill in your tiny rental studio flat. You’re going to start tomorrow. Give it up. Daily exercise can be the decision to take the stairs instead of the escalator or elevator. It can be babysitting for a friend, getting off one stop earlier on your way to work or even making it a habit to do light daily chores around the house for half an hour every day.
7. Learn to Love Mornings
You know what they say about the early bird, don’t you? Well, you don’t have to wake up at 5 AM to feel fulfilled – far be it from us to suggest such a thing. However, if you eliminate your anxiety about starting a new day, chances are the day will automatically improve. Start fresh and positive and create your daily morning ritual. Include a snack you love, take at least ten minutes to pamper yourself and don’t start out stressed. You’ll soon see what a huge difference this makes.
8. Be Your Own Best Friend
One of the best self help tips anyone will ever give you is to become self-reliant. Keep your friends and nurture emotionally rich connections. However, don’t rely exclusively on others, be they lifetime friends, family or loved ones. Unwillingly, you’ll become a burden. Instead, learn to depend on no one but yourself, learn how to keep yourself entertained and happy, and all that newfound self-assurance will instantly reflect in your relationships with others.
9. Overcome Emotional Setbacks
Understand that nothing is worth beating yourself over. Not even your worst mistakes. Acknowledge them, take actions to make amends where they are do, and issue heartfelt apologies, if needed. Be pro-active, and then move on. Nothing is the end of the world, except the end of the world itself. And since the apocalypse isn’t here just yet, why not enjoy life, instead of spending it trapped by fear?
10. Become Self-Aware
Most importantly, listen to your imagination, feelings and needs. Know your boundaries and gently instruct those who over-step. Know your limits, toy with them and work toward extending them. Know your assets and use them to the full extent of their potential. Know your values and your motivations. Once you really start listening to your body and your mind, the rest of the world will follow.