Finding a good date isn’t easy, the best dating apps don’t guarantee that you’ll find a date, but that shouldn’t stop you from trying. Dating should be fun when you’re with the right person, but there are so many things that can ruin a date, other than the obvious: not being attracted to the person or simply not liking them. What things, you ask? Well, various mistakes that you are doing without even knowing they are mistakes. Small things such as following silly, old rules about dating that no longer make any sense. In today’s article we’re going to take a look at 10 common dating mistakes. Learn about what they are so you can avoid making them.
10. List Checking
Having a mental list when you go out on a first date is alright. We’ve all go those three or four things that need to checked, otherwise the relationship would never work, but if you’re thinking that your date should tick off every item on your list, then you are making a mistake. There is no perfect date out there, no matter how much you would like to believe that, so give them a break and try compromising.
9. Have a Little Black Book
Collecting telephone numbers is so 90’s! If you like someone, get their number and ask them out on a date, it’s simple. If you don’t, don’t ask for their telephone number or erase it if you have it. Keeping their number just in case is childish. You either like them or you don’t, they won’t magically appear more appealing to you two months from now.
8. Not Talking about Your Relationship
Dating is fun, you get to hang out, do fun activities and enjoy the person you’re with, but keeping casual for too long without discussing about it is a mistake. After a couple of dates, you should talk about your relationship: do you want to keep it casual, do you want more, what does the other person expect from you and what do you expect from the other person? You’re adults, so you better act it.
7. Self-Imposed Text Restraint
I am not going to text them tomorrow, I should wait at least two days is something we keep telling ourselves over and over again. We’ve heard this in movies and we’ve gotten it as a piece of advice time and time again. But it’s a mistake. Why wait if you really like the person? Why not let them know you had a great time and that you would like to see them again? Because you’re afraid you’re going to come off too pushy? Life’s way too short for worries like that.
6. I’m Fine
When someone asks you how you are, don’t answer with I’m fine unless you really are fine. If you say it and you’re not fine, then you’re making a huge mistake. You’re expecting someone to guess what’s wrong with you and that’s not fair, especially towards someone you’re just dating. Be a mature individual and use words to express your feelings. Others have tried it in the past and have rated this activity highly.
5. Being Anything Else than Direct
One of the most common dating mistakes, avoiding to ask the big and important questions will only waste you precious time. Don’t ask 10 small questions that will allow you to glance at what the person may think about a subject, ask one question about what they think about the subject. If they’re cool, they’ll appreciate your frankness.
4. Putting Labels
Avoid putting labels on your dates and your dating routine. You can just date someone without taking it to the next level. It’s OK to be friends with benefits, or to simply be somewhere in a grey area. There’s this constant need that people have to put labels on things, as if putting a label on something automatically makes it easier to understand. Let go of labels and enjoy dating.
3. Setting a Sex Embargo
It is your body and you alone should decide what to do with it. We’re merely saying that so many people go against their desired just because they’re afraid of appearing too easy or too desperate. Do NOT set a sex embargo! Have sex when you feel is the right time, even if it’s on the first date. If you and the person you’re dating have clicked, then you shouldn’t let a rule get in the way of your sexual satisfaction.
2. Be Distrustful
If you go on a date thinking that they must be lying about something, then you should better just stay home and watch TV. Yes, people lie and cheat, but having this constantly on your mind will not make things any easier for you. Accept what they’re telling you as being true and be truthful yourself. It’s the only way to start a relationship.
1. Believing that You Can Fix Them
A date is date, not a future patient of yours or a case study that you need to look further into. Do not attempt to continue dating them just because they’re broken and you know deep down inside that you can fix them. You owe yourself much more than that.
What do you think about these common dating mistakes? Are you guilty of any of them? If you have anything to add or share, do so in the comment section below. We love hearing from our readers!