Why is it so hard to tell someone you care about, that you love them? Why do so many people have an issue with expressing their feelings? Is it because they’re afraid the person they tell it to won’t respond the same way, or is it because they don’t want to invest time and effort in that relationship for fear that it will fall apart and everything would have been in vain? Is it both and more? We’re wondering that because I love you doesn’t fall into the category of things you should never say in a relationship, it’s something we shouldn’t be afraid of saying, yet it is. We’re going to take a look at 10 reasons why you’re afraid to say I love you and maybe, just maybe, you’ll get over your fear and let the person you love know that you love them.
So you’re not really certain you love them. You know what I think about that? I think that if you’re questioning yourself if you love them, then you love them. Saying I love you shouldn’t be so complicated. It’s something that should slide out of our mouths easily. The moment you feel a tingle in your heart for that person, tell them that. You’ll feel much better!
9. You’ve Never Said It Before
If you’ve never said I love you before then we understand why it’s such a big thing for you and why you’re afraid. As we said, it’s not such a big thing! Do you suspect they love you back? If you do, then you shouldn’t be afraid. Heck, even if you’re not sure they love you, tell them you love them, because life is way too short for things like this.
8. Fear of Being Laughed At
If you tell someone you love them and they laugh in your face, then do yourself a favor and slap them senseless and move on. OK, maybe you shouldn’t hit them, but try to let them know that laughing is the most inappropriate response upon hearing that someone loves you. Still, even though you know deep down inside that there is no way the person will laugh at you, you still somehow fear it.
7. You’re In a Bad Place Right Now
People who have had their hearts broken are very reserved when it comes to saying I love you to a new partner. They need to learn how to trust in love again, as corny as that may sound. They’re afraid to say I love you, afraid that they’ll be hurt again. Treat them gently, be patient with then, they’re usually worth it.
6. You Don’t Know What the Future Will Bring
So, you’re thinking about saying I love you, but you don’t know what that entails. Where is the relationship headed now that you’re saying I love you to each other? Just to straighten things out, you need to have a heart to heart conversation with your partner and clear the air about things.
5. You Don’t Want Things to Change
Change is mostly good, but there are some cases when change is bad. For some people things stay the same because they work, because they don’t need to change. I love you will change things in the relationship, but it will be for the best. It’s not like you’re going to say I love you to a person whom you know loves you back and suddenly, because you said it, it all goes to hell. Not very likely.
4. You Don’t Want to Get Involved
Fear of commitment is one of the main causes why relationships fail. And this fear will manifest itself in everything you do in your relationship. You have to ask yourself why is it that you don’t want to commit. Is it fear of getting hurt? Is it because you don’t like the person you’re with? Or is the reason a mystery even for yourself?
3. You Fear Showing Your Love is a Sign of Weakness
OK, this is absurd, but some people don’t say I love you because of this reason. How could showing the purest and most basic human emotion be a sign of weakness? If you admit to yourself that you love someone, if you let that person know, you’re showing signs of emotional intelligence, which is the best type of intelligence!
No animals handle rejection well. Humans have learned to hide their reactions to being rejected, but deep down inside it hurts when people reject us. Most of us require appreciation and want to be loved but the fear of rejection can sometimes cripple a relationship. You need to tell yourself that rejection is part of life and it won’t change who you are.
1. Fear of Unrequited Love
This fear has a lot in common with the fear of rejection, but it is a bit more complex. You’re not just afraid of being rejected, you’re afraid that the person you say the three magic words to might not love you back. And that is by far the worst thing that could happen to you.
Have you ever been afraid to say I love you when you felt love for that person? Did you tell them you loved them? What were you reasons? What were your hopes and fears? How did they react? Drop us a line in the comment section below, we’d love to hear you out.