Come on, admit it, we’ve all been there: going about our business, when all of a sudden, we add another person to our relationship. Society frowns upon such abomination, we know, and today, we’re going to frown upon it as well, but for different reasons. Movies about love triangles make everything look like fun and games, but it’s not always like that. A polyamorous relationship won’t make you more exciting than you are, more interesting and it definitely won’t make you more fun. You’re still the same boring person you were… but a person who is now involved in a threesome love affair. Let’s take a look at 10 things that suck about being in a threesome love affair.
10. It Takes a Lot of Effort to Hide…
… if you’re the type of person who hides things and cares about their public image like you were running for president. Even if you do come out to your friends and family, there are a few situations when you would rather keep things under wrap. It’s not going to be easy or pleasant, but sometimes, you have to do it.
9. It Takes Up a Lot of Your Time
It’s not easy to have a polyamorous relationship, but when it comes to your free time, well… you’re not having too much of it. Sure, you’re still getting plenty of time for yourself, but who said that that’s all the time you need to have?
8. Someone’s Bound to Get Bored
And if it’s not going to be you who experiences boredom first, then you’re going to feel the crap. If someone wants out of the relationship and you are against it, you’re going to not like it too much. The key to getting out alive out of it is communication. Talk to your partners sincerely and directly and discuss everything little doubt or feeling you may have.
7. You Have to Work Double Shifts
Yes, you really do need to work double shifts to satisfy the other two people in your relationship. Sometimes, that can take a toll on psyche and you’re most likely to feel tired and in need of a good and relaxing nap. If that ever happens, then feel free to take a good and relaxing nap.
6. It’s Not Going to Last
Just like an amorous relationship between two people is not going to last for an eternity, the same way a polyamorous relationship is not going to last. When, not if, it ends, you get double the pain and tears. Consider yourself lucky if you break up with only one of the persons involved.
5. You Need to Answer too Many of Your Friend’s Questions
How does that work? or If you had to… I mean, really had to choose, who would you choose? and other similar questions. Because they’re your friends, you can’t really tell them off, or maybe you can, but sometimes you really need to answer some of their questions and that’s not a pretty thing to do, because most questions about your polyamorous relationship are silly and it’s none of anybody’s business.
4. It’s Much More Than Just Sex
How fun would it be if everything was just fun and games, but it’s not and it can’t be. Unfortunately, a polyamorous relationship isn’t only about sex. People have feelings and feelings get hurt. You need to mind not only your partner, but also your other partner, so it’s double the work. Ah, a world where people’s feelings would magically get unhurt!
3. There Will Be Tears
We’ve mentioned earlier that someone’s bound to get bored… well, someone’s bound to get hurt sooner or later, just like in any relationship. And breakups are never easy. But you know what? That’s alright, as long as you get to keep the cat!
2. Your Mother’s Not Going to Like It
I don’t care what you say and how cool your mother is, she’s not going to like the fact that you’re in a polyamorous relationship. She’s just not. Trying to convince her that it is OK and that everything is going to be alright is like trying to convince me not to have that last bowl of green lentils with fresh tomato sauce, turmeric and garam masala. You know that’s not going to happen!
1. You Are Going to Feel Left Out
For the love of God, there are times when you’re feeling left out in a monogamous relationship, but a relationship with two other individuals is going to cause you some serious angst if you’re the type of person who requires round the clock attention. What you need to do is relax and remember that you don’t control anything, which is probably the best thing about life.
Have you ever had a polyamorous relationship? Care to share your thoughts on the matter? We’d love to hear from our readers!