So, you’ve just ended a relationship and you’re going through hell. It doesn’t matter whose fault it was, you’re still suffering and there are all sorts of emotions that you’re going through on a daily basis: pain, regret, anger and even remorse. We’ve got some really great tips to help you move on after a failed relationship but we’ve also got a small list of things you should never do after a breakup that will help you recover, move on with your life and maybe even help you find love. Read on and chin up, things can only get better!
10. Plaster Your Pain All Over Facebook
A breakup can hurt so bad that all you want to do is scream from the top of your lungs so that everybody knows you’re suffering, but this is not the way to recovery. Talk to your friends face to face, on the phone, just don’t tell the entire Facebook you’re in pain, it’s not going to help you one bit.
Do not go back to your ex begging! Do not beg them to take you back! Do not beg them to give you your old stuffed toy! Do not beg them to meet you for one last talk! Do not beg, no matter what you do.
8. Stalk Your Ex
Under no circumstances are you permitted to stalk your ex. No matter how much you miss them, no matter how entitled you think you are to stalk them, you are not entitled to do such thing. With these social media websites, it is dead easy to stalk people, but try to resist it, because if you don’t, your healing will take much longer than it should.
7. Rock Out with Your Socks Out
Alright, that’s not how the saying goes, but you know what we mean. Very often, people who exit relationships have only one thing on their minds and that is to party and try to make up for all the time they think they lost staying in their previous relationship. While this may sounds very appealing and it is quite common, you should try to resist the urge to do it, because it’s not going to help you recover or be very emotionally fulfilling. Then again, not everything we do has to be emotionally fulfilling.
6. Get a Haircut
Who doesn’t go out and get a new haircut after a big change in their lives? It’s as if we need to tell the world that things have changed in our lives and what better way to do it than to change our physical appearance? If you do get a haircut, don’t do anything dramatic, because you are going to regret it, we’re certain of it.
One of the things you should never do after a breakup is start hitting the booze like there’s no tomorrow. We all know booze doesn’t heal things, it’s just making you forget about things and when you’re sober, that stuff will hit you like a ton of bricks. Have a beer with your friends when you go out, but don’t buy a bottle of vodka every day.
4. Jump in a New Relationship
So many people hurry to enter a new relationship after they’ve just ended one and that can be a really dangerous thing. One needs time to recover and rediscover what they’re like on their own, especially if you’ve been in a long-term relationship. When you’re living with someone you tend to lose yourself in them, you tend to morph together into a new person and when they’re gone, you need time to discover who you really are. Take it easy!
3. Look at Old Pictures
What’s gone is gone and you should keep those lovely pictures for when you’re all better and you can go through them without exploding in tears. It’s nice to reminisce and all, but don’t do it a couple of days after the breakup, it won’t help you with your recovery. You can gather all the things that remind you of him/her and put them in a box. Only open it when you feel you are ready.
2. Cry and Eat. Eat and Cry
This may sound like a big fat cliché, but that’s because it happens… a lot. There are two types of people in this world (bear with us): people who lose their appetite when they’re sad and people whose appetite increases when they’re sad. Unfortunately, most people eat when they’re sad or stressed; it’s their way of filling up a void that they feel is inside. When that happens, try to rationalize your feelings and move away from the fridge. It’s not going to help you feel better.
1. Be Alone
There is one thing that you should definitely not do after a breakup and that is to be alone. Try to hang out with friends or get them to come over, be with family or do things on your own, such as going to the movies or a game. Don’t be alone, because you’ll only get sadder and end up thinking about all the things that went wrong in your relationship and that’s not going to help anyone anymore.
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