Finding someone you like and who likes you back isn’t easy. Sometimes it happens that you like someone and they don’t like you back. It’s sad, even heartbreaking at times, but you get over it. But when they do like you back, but not in a romantic kind of way, then you know things aren’t going to get pretty. In a previous article we’ve talked about the most common dating mistakes and today it’s time we took a look at how to get out of the friendzone. We have ten tips for all of you out there, men and women, who are being friendzoned by the ones you like. Read on and remember that there’s still hope for you. There always is!
This is the first step you need to take for getting out of the friendzone. Once you admit you’re in the friendzone, things will start heading towards a resolution. Good or bad. I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but staying in the friendzone is like staying in purgatory. Things need to change, they can’t stay like that forever.
OK, not that you’ve admitted to yourself that you indeed are in the friendzone, ask yourself how your friend sees you. Do they have a significant other and could be interested in someone else? Are you their friend ever since kindergarten or are you a new friend? Are you a shoulder to cry on or a beer buddy? Knowing what you are to them will help you clarify your strategy to get out of the friendzone.
Talking about your crush and being in the friendzone with your common friends will help you get some insight into the matter. Also, it’s really great to have someone who knows you both give you their honest opinion about the whole thing. Try to be open to whatever your common friends have to say.
We get it, you’re in love and it’s never been like this before, but you shouldn’t lose too much sleep over it. Because if you do, it will end up consuming you. Try to think about the big picture: if it works out between you and your crush, great, if it doesn’t, not so great, but you still get to live to tell the story.
Nobody likes a whiner and nobody likes a man or woman who is constantly talking about their crush and how much they love her/him. We know that while you’re alone you can’t stop thinking about them, but when you’re with your friends, make an effort and try to contain yourself, because you might bore people (it is possible, you know!).
If you want to get out of the friendzone then you should first figure out what you want from your crush. Do you want to have fling with them? Do you want to have a steady relationship? Do you want to marry them and have their babies? What is it? Figure out what you want from them and maybe you’ll figure out how to approach the friendzone issue.
Fawning over someone while they’re not there is one thing, but completely worshiping someone to their face is another. Nobody in their right mind is going to appreciate a person who is acting as if they’re a celebrity. Love and attraction simply don’t work that way. Be cool about the whole thing and only then things will start happening.
Yeah, we know what you’re going to say about this one: if they don’t like me for who I am, then good riddance, why should I change the way I look or behave!? We’re not saying to completely change the way you are, but a little change in your style and look always helps. Because we could all look just a little better if we put our minds to it.
Again, this may not be the thing you want to hear, but taking a break from your friend could actually be a really good thing for you and your relationship. It could give you two a chance to miss each other and some hidden feelings could surface during this time. And hidden feelings resurfacing are exactly what you want to happen.
What else is there to do aside from confessing your love to your loved one? So they think you’re their friend and nothing more. You telling how you feel about them will surely change things and that is OK because you want things to change. For better or for worse. Good luck, you fool!
Are you in the friendzone and you want to get out of the friendzone? Are you going to use any of our tips? Have you gotten out of a friendzone and you’d like to share your experience with us? Drop us a line in the comment section below.