Recovering after a failed relationship could be the hardest thing you will ever do in your life. Or so it may seem at first. Everyone needs help to move on after a failed relationship, that’s why we made this list; hopefully you’ll put at least one tip in practice. What you need to understand is that you’re not alone and that what is happening to you and what you’re feeling is something that has been happening to people since the dawn of time. Almost everyone who has had a relationship fail has experienced these feelings you’re sensing – of loss and despair, of loneliness and anger, boredom and spleen. Read on and use these tips to pick yourself off the ground, dust yourself off and move on.
10. Have One Last Talk
It’s nice to talk things out and come to terms with what’s happened. We’ve got some tips on how to spot a liar, but if your significant other is not known to be one, then you can relax and listen to what they have to say and take it at face value. It doesn’t matter who leaves and who gets left, there’s always room for one last discussion that will hopefully help close any open doors.
9. Invest in a Hobby
Now that you’ve got all this free time that you’re not spending with your significant other you can use it to do what you’ve always wanted: learn how to sculpt, learn French or take up painting. Something that will require you to pay attention to it and that will make you forget about everything else that is happening in your life.
8. Work Out!
Don’t spend all your free time in from of the television eating Tortilla chips with spray cheese – it’s bad for you (body and soul). Instead, you can hit the gym – some nice cardio exercises will release endorphins that will make you feel great about yourself and you’ll also get in shape while feeling awesome. Everybody wins!
7. Get Rid of Things with an Emotional Charge
Do not keep all the old love letters, his or her T-shirt and their old perfume – get rid of everything that will remind you of them and will cause you to shed tears. We know it’s hard to give everything away, but keeping a tiny piece of them will not help at all. If you simply can’t get rid of everything, keep one single item and stash it so that you won’t bump into it every single day.
6. Lean on Your Friends
Friends will be there for you in dark times – all you need to do is reach out to them. Don’t let your need for them be implied – some will notice you need their help, and others will not, it’s not as if they’re psychic. Tell them I need a shoulder to cry on and they will offer it in a heartbeat, that’s what friends are for.
5. Don’t Spend Too Much Time Alone
Spending too much time on your own will cause you to develop bad routines, such as not taking a shower for a respectable period of time and eating in your bed right before you go to sleep. Try to get your friends to come over as much as possible! And whatever you do, do not watch romantic comedies or any Hallmark movie – you’ll only be causing yourself pain and anguish.
4. Rediscover Yourself
A great way to move on after a failed relationship is to stop and ask yourself what you want from life, now that you’ve beginning a new chapter. When you’re in a relationship, you make a lot of compromise (and that’s OK), but now that you’re single, you won’t need to make any. Find out where you stay in connection with everything that matters to you, from the food you eat, to the movies you see.
3. Put Your Thoughts in Order
After a breakup, it’s good to have a plan you can follow. Nothing too big, a simple three-month plan is fine. Where do you want to go with your life? What do you want to do? Are you searching for someone else or do you want to spend some time alone to mourn the relationship? Whatever you choose, think about how it will impact you in the long run.
2. Go Out!
Go out, meet new people, party, hang out with your friends – rediscover the city and its people. Get yourself out there and have fun! It will be hard at first, maybe you won’t feel like going out, but you need to gently nudge yourself into this direction, because it’s for your own good.
1. Take a Trip
A trip somewhere nice is a great way to turn over a new leaf. The good about it is that you’re leaving your environment that will most likely remind you of your ex. You’re in a new and exciting place and all you need to do is relax and have a good time. You’ll get back home and you’ll have plenty of time to think about what went wrong and all that jazz!
How did you move on after a failed relationship? Did you do any of these things? Let us know in the comment section below.