So you moved out of your parents’ house and you’re independent! Congratulations! That’s quite an achievement. If you’re living on your own for the first time, then there are a lot of things you will need to learn before you set out on your journey. Don’t worry, you’ll learn most of them as they come along, but there are some things that you simply need to keep in mind. We’re here to tell you 10 important rules being a rood roommate. Don’t think that if you’re living with a good friend, or that if you consider yourself an awesome person, then things will be just peachy. First, you will need to gain your roommate’s trust, one of the most important things out there. Let’s see what the other rules are.
10. Don’t be a Nag
Nagging people won’t make them change their ways or agree with you. It’ll simply drive them mad and living with them will be hell. Do you really want your roommate to avoid you for fear of you telling them the same thing over and over again? If it’s something that you’ve asked them to do, such as take out the trash, then explain to them politely what you need them to do and they might understand.
Communication is the key! If you manage to get your ideas and wishes across peacefully and as clearly as possible, and you’re open to making compromises, then it should all work out between you two. Compromise is something that must exist when living with someone, be it lover or friend.
Get to know the person you live with. The more you find out about them, the more you will understand the motivations behind their actions and the less likely you’ll be to judge them. For example, at one point I was living with a friend who was absolutely obsessed with cleaning his teeth to the point that it was driving me insane; turned out both his parents had periodontitis and lost all of teeth in their early forties.
7. Set Time Aside for Fun Activities
Just because you live together doesn’t mean that you don’t have to do stuff together. If you set aside time for fun activities, then you’ll get to bond and have fun and this will lighten the mood and make you forget about all the things that bother you about the other person. Take a walk in the park, play some Monopoly or watch a movie together!
6. Pay Up!
Money is one of the main reasons why roommates argue. Pay the rent, the utilities, the bills in good time and if there is a time when you’re not able to do that, tell the person you’re living with about it, don’t hide from them and hope they don’t notice.
5. Set Some Basic Rules
When you move in together, sit down and talk rules. Can you bring friends to sleep over? What about pets? Can you, at one point, get a pet? What about cleaning up? Who gets what? Be honest about your quirks and habits and find out if any would potentially bother your roommate. Rules are very important when living with someone.
4. Respect Those Rules
Once those rules are set, they might as well be set in stone! Don’t mess around with them, respect them and expect your roommate to do the same. Being a good roommate is more than paying the rent on time and cleaning the house.
Don’t be stingy, share with your roommate! If you’re cooking, ask them to join you. It’s the little things, such as sharing a piece of chocolate or a sweater that will create the bond that only roommates can have. If you’ve got a roommate who doesn’t appear to be into sharing, then maybe you can nudge them into that direction.
2. Clean Up After Yourself
Clean up after yourself, you’re not in your mother’s home anymore. She’s not going to pick up your dirty socks off the floor and wash them for you. I know that you thought the socks would simply magically appear in your clean clothes drawer, but wasn’t really the case. Wash the dishes after you’ve finished eating, clean the toilet bowl and the tub when you’re done. Be considerate!
1. Respect Their Privacy
The most important rule for being a good roommate and having a good relationship with them is to respect their privacy. Respect their space and their room. If you see that they’re sad one day, ask them if they want to talk about it, ask them if there is anything you can do to make them feel better. If they don’t want to talk about it, simply end all conversation and give them space. Sometimes, people just need to be alone.
What do you think being a good roommate really means? Have you ever shared an apartment with someone? How did it go? Any horror stories you’d like to share with us? Or was it uneventful?